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Would this be bad to light a candle for my Lola on my birthday party? - light lola bbs

I have my debut soon, and I really do not want my friends, that the 18 roses and candles. I wish my cousins in the Philippines for her, so I started my own candles, they play a video tape. I want to write their names in Sharpie on the lighting of candles before they say, and their candles. But I would also like the last candle in honor of my Lola, who recently passed away this year passed easily. Was this a good thing for my birthday? Is it too much to expect a surprise? Also, as I my 18 roses? There is also provision for the last candle of my grandmother, I let it burn or knock-out like the others?